A mum expresses outrage after her abusive ex-partner is released from prison after serving only three months of a three-year sentence.
Hayley, 38, wants women to report abuse. Kowal, 34, was guilty of assault and causing bodily harm. He pleaded guilty to more harm charges earlier, and a judge sentenced him to three years.
The Ministry of Justice says Kowal is on strict license. They monitor him with a curfew, and he wears an electronic tag. Hayley feels disappointed and insulted, wondering why people should report crimes.
She urges people to speak out, believing more abusers must face court. Hayley says anyone can find the courage to speak up. The abuse caused mental, emotional, and physical trauma, requiring years to heal.
Hayley met Kowal in 2020 when both worked as couriers. They lived together in Ilkeston. At first, their relationship was good, but things changed on New Year’s Eve.
Hayley saw images of him with another woman. He attacked her that night, marking the first instance of violence. He apologized, and she forgave him.
She took him back because he promised to change. For three years, violence continued, including throwing things and breaking glass. Her son heard the fighting, leading Hayley to withdraw her police statement.
She feared losing her children and wanted to help him. Hayley started a nail business, but he belittled her work. Kowal disliked her independence, she thinks.
The last straw was an incident in March when he blocked her in the bedroom. She tried to escape via climbing and decided to report him, fearing he would kill her.
Kowal was arrested and charged, denying some charges, leading to a trial. Hayley had to testify, facing his lawyer’s questions. The trial wait was both good and bad.
Hayley was finally free from him, but worries remained. She gained support while he was jailed. She could see friends and family freely and rediscovered her true self. He had made her feel crazy.
Hayley suggests using Clare’s Law, helping people know about a partner’s past. She advises not to wait. Judge Bennett gave Kowal three years for assault and harm, along with a ten-year restraining order.
Hayley feels she got minimal justice. The Ministry of Justice commented that violators on curfew face jail again. Clare’s Law helps people know if partners were abusive earlier.